hello,
I’m Kimberly—a Los Angeles–based intimacy coach and BDSM facilitator. I work with people who want to come home to themselves through embodied awareness and honest self-relationship.
My mission? To help you reclaim your aliveness, move beyond shame, and feel more at home in your whole self—inside and out.
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But I didn’t always live this way.​​​​​..
raised on shame,
ROOTED IN SELF-AUTHORITY
(aka: I've probably been where you are.)
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I’ve been the one who performed confidence but felt frozen inside. The one who confused attention for intimacy. The one who kept things “cool” so I didn’t scare anyone away. And I’ve been the one who finally said: enough. Enough hiding. Enough shrinking. Enough pretending I didn’t want to be deeply known.
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I was raised in a traditional Middle Eastern household where reputation ruled and silence spoke louder than truth. Autonomy was frowned upon, and sexuality? Practically a dirty word. I grew up internalizing shame, shrinking my voice, and bending myself to meet expectations that were never mine. Boundaries? Nonexistent. Confidence? Theoretical. Pleasure? Unfamiliar. I felt disconnected from my body, unsure of my worth, and about as sexy as a potato.
Because I didn’t trust myself, I learned to rely on structure instead. I oriented toward what felt safe, predictable, and approved of—even when it required ignoring my own internal signals. I stayed in relationships that made sense on paper and built a life that appeared steady from the outside. That path led to an engagement I eventually couldn’t sustain. Ending it forced an honesty I’d been avoiding for years. I stopped managing perception and began responding to what was real for me. From there, everything shifted: how I spoke, how I chose, and how I understood myself.
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Through deep personal work, somatic training, and time as a professional switch in a commercial dungeon, I learned how to live unapologetically—and how to hold space for others to do the same. I discovered the beauty of being met, the healing that happens in safe, shame-free spaces, and the strength that comes from being recognized without judgment. This work changed the trajectory of my life. Now, I guide others through changes of their own.
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​Throughout my career, I've participated the SAR panel (Sexual Attitude Reassessment) for the Sexual Health Alliance, shared my perspective on the "Is Our Love ___?" podcast, and contributed to "Pass the Porn: A Cinematic Social Experiment," among others. Most recently, I was featured in season three of the EPIX late-night show "Sex Life."
​If you’re tired of carrying rules that never fit, of second-guessing yourself, or of sidelining parts of who you are to stay acceptable—you’re not alone.
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We begin with where you are—and move forward with intention.
the alchemy of intimacy
Forget the clinical talk. This is intimacy work is shaped by what actually happens in people's lives. I don’t diagnose dysfunction. I work with the questions, patterns, and contradictions that show up in your beautifully human mess.
My work focuses on how you show up—in conversation, in choice, and in moments that matter. We pay attention to communication, limits, and self-direction as practical capacities that can be strengthened over time. Sexuality is woven into this process as an inner landscape: how you experience desire, arousal, and intimacy, and how much freedom or restriction you feel around them. Rather than instruction or enactment, we focus on understanding, discernment, and integration—so these parts of you no longer feel confusing, overwhelming, or out of reach.
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I walk this path too—and I know how transformative it can be when someone holds space for your becoming.
A Playground for Exploration
In the realm of kink, I wear many hats—and sometimes a collar.
As a professional and lifestyle switch, I move fluidly between dominance and submission, depending on the energy, the moment, and the dynamic we're co-creating. I see BDSM as one of the most potent and creative playgrounds for self-exploration, healing, and erotic liberation. This work isn’t just about kink; it’s about sharpening your awareness, meeting yourself at your thresholds, and learning how power and vulnerability can move together with mutual attunement.
In this context, BDSM becomes a practice in presence, responsibility, and consent literacy. It teaches responsiveness—to yourself and to another—along with structure, communication, and embodied self-authority. These dynamics offer a contained environment where patterns can be explored consciously, rather than acted out unconsciously.
Whether you’re curious about kink for the first time or carrying fantasies you’ve held quietly for years, I offer a space where desire can be spoken aloud without judgment and explored with care. Nothing is rushed, assumed, or imposed. Scenes are built collaboratively, with clear communication and mutual agreement at every step.​
your first move
Thinking about working with me? Take a peek at my services, then fill out the Client Intake Form. Once you've hit "submit," we'll book your free discovery call and see where this can go.​ Skip the form, skip the call...and that would just be tragic.​